The last few weeks i have been prowling my dating sites for a "Man". Maybe i am too particular.
I get excited about one and I'm not attracted to them -OR- I am attracted to them but there personality doesn't match mine.
I know that relationships take time to bloom. Am I being too hasty? Do I stick to my instincts? Should i try to give a guy that i may not be totally attracted to but like their personality a chance? I do know that a good personality makes someone more attractive. Dating is frustrating.
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I understand your frustration. I have been in the same boat myself before. I have to say that for the first time in my life I am not focusing on the future and the myriad variables. I am trying to live in the here and now. We can only take things one day at a time. Not to ramble off a bunch of psycho babble jargon here but I really think when we obssess on something we only end up dissapointed. When we are relaxed and happy and decide to take on the future as it comes we will end up surprised and fulfilled. Everything that needs to be, will be, and we can only control certain things in life. Also, if you really are serious about finding someone then you have to ask yourself, "am I putting myself in the path of my potential life mate?" Or are you just sitting at home wishing he'd show up at your door like a Domino's pizza? If you envision a guy who is athletic then get to the outdoors. Take your dog to the park. Go where the pet lovers are. If you want someone that is caring and has empathy for others then go volunteer on some projects. If you want a man who shares your interests then join some groups where you might get to interact with this potential person. Check out meetup.com if you get a chance. It's a great site. Even if you don't find a place to meet up with your potential soul mate then you might make some cool new friends. Your family and friends are great resources as well. Make it known to them that you want to find the man of your dreams. They know you really well so ask them to keep their eyes peeled for you. Perhaps they have a single friend, brother, cousin, nephew, etc. that they think would be perfect for you. Networking is key. A lot of people are uncomfortable with putting themselves out there though. Anything of worth is worth taking a risk. Like that old saying goes, "Sometimes you have to go out on a limb because that's where the fruit is." It is so true! We have to be open to taking more risks and reaching outside of our comfort zone. Because, when you think about it, isn't our happiness and that perfect person worth it? I should hope so! Best of luck to you in whatever you do. The world is your oyster kiddo!
Thanks for the GREAT advice. I love and will probably clone your saying "not sit at home wishing he'd show up at your door like a Domino's pizza?". You are so right. I need to spend my time making me the person I want to be. That way when the timing is right, i'll be ready for him.
I'm so glad. Take the comment and run with it. :)
There is nothing wrong with taking the time to focus on ourselves. No other time in our lives can we be this self indulgent. When we have families of our own the focus will be on the kids, spouses, etc. This is our time to see the world and become our own best person!
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